5 Major Changes I Noticed After I Turned my Life Private!
I’m writing this post after understanding the fact that a lot of individuals need to hear this especially if you think you have changed as a human being during the Pandemic.
Year 2019: “Sampriti Roy, an extrovert girl, who can make friends effortlessly, with whom people want to talk, her friends talk behind her back but she’s still nice to them, who is always ready to help people even though she’s aware that they are just taking advantage of her!”, said one of my college friends when I asked him how he would describe me to a stranger.
It was me, when I was exploring the world away from home, and felt the need to be around people to fill the absence of my family — my parents.
Fast forward to the global pandemic times — I suffered from a terrible mental breakdown. Virus and untimely deaths of innocents were one of the many personal reasons that I felt the need of cutting off from everyone.
Almost rare contact with a handful of friends — called them once in 3 months. Missed childhood friend’s weddings. Skipped college reunions. Even deactivated my social media handles!
I focused every ounce of my energy into focusing into upgrading my digital marketing skills and continued practicing the same.
2 years later, in 2022, here are the major changes I observed while reading my diary- the diary of the extrovert Sam:
1. Fewer People Started Interfering with my Life
Friends and Colleagues stopped contacting me after I canceled a few meetings with them. I preferred staying back at home instead of going out during the pandemic and giving my parents another reason to worry!
Less social interaction gave me more time to focus on my stuff!
2. It’s Easy to Manage my Issues with Less Audience
When I had a bunch of friends, I used to have a bunch of solutions to my single problem. I used to think less about the shit I was facing those days.
It was like I was playing the games according to someone else’s rules. I had no point of view, no opinion of my own!
But as I stopped sharing my stuff with others, others stopped being my counselor!
Friends helping friends at the time of crisis is great! It’s amazing! But you must have your own decisions when things are related to your life! Don’t give that power to any friends or relatives ever!
3. Other’s Opinion Stopped Affecting my Thoughts
“I don’t think that guy is good enough for you”
“I don’t think you should start your online business right now”
“You are of age, you should get married soon!”
You decide what’s best for you, not others!
Talk to yourself. Meditate. Think about issues and you will come up with solutions!
4. Private Life is Safe Life
Less show-off attracts less evil eyes.
I learned this lesson after sacrificing my 3 very important social media accounts where I was “practicing” the art of being an influencing personality.
I still manage some amazing profiles but no single soul knows about the shit I do, which now I kinda find pretty cool!
5. Freedom to Focus on Most Important Relationships in my Life
I would be lying if I ever said, “I never faked my personality to impress people who didn’t last even a year with me.”
I ignored some of the most long-term relationships just to save some short-term presence of unworthy individuals (Now that’s a strong statement, but you know what I meant)
Pandemic turned into a blessing to heal such relationships and gave me the courage to eliminate any bitterness that was present whatsoever and begin with a fresh start.
Surrounding yourself with people who genuinely care about you and eliminating fake personalities takes some time, some heartbreaks, some healing, and a lot of trust.
Are you a private person? Let me know the perks you enjoy being a private person 😉
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